National Hypnotherapy Society | Hypnotherapy for Relationships

Human survival has always been dependent on complex interpersonal relationships to survive. From hunting as a team to take down large prey, to passing on knowledge to newer generations, to being part of a family and wider community. Although our daily struggles have changed as time has marched on, many of us still require connection, intimacy, and communication to thrive.

When a relationship, be it romantic, familial, or work-related breaks down, it can be a source of significant distress and emotional upheaval. The ways that we form and maintain relationships and attachments are formed in childhood and can be affected at any point in our lives by significant events. If we have learned only how to form unhelpful attachments, this can disrupt our relationships for the rest of our lives. A painful event such as bullying, betrayal, or rejection can have a ripple effect and taint all of our future relationships, too.

By design, hypnotherapy is a helpful way to peek into our unconscious mind to remedy past traumas, as well as to reprogram our subconscious mind to ameliorate how we interpret the actions of others and how we respond to interactions. There are many aspects of relationships that hypnotherapy can help with, and we’re going to take a look at some common problems below.


In any form of relationship, conflict is a normal and often unavoidable part of it. Nobody is the same and sometimes philosophies or opinions will clash, and it is up to those in a relationship to work towards a solution. Challenging each other’s beliefs is a healthy way to learn about other perspectives and widen your viewpoint of the world around you. However, if conflict becomes common and disagreements become drawn-out, malicious, and seemingly unsolvable, it may be time to step back and take a better look at what is going on.

Hypnotherapy can allow us to recognise outdated or unhelpful beliefs and thought patterns that might be causing us to clash with others. If you find yourself having the same disagreement repeatedly, it might be time to look deeper into your subconscious and see what is going on more clearly. Perhaps an opinion has been formed from a past experience or an authority figure. Perhaps your viewpoint isn’t realistic in today’s society, or as important to someone’s character as you believe. Hypnotherapy can also help you learn to cope with conflict and difficult emotions more successfully. Being able to discuss a topic calmly and with a clear head can lead to a much faster and more satisfying resolution.

Toxic relationships

A relationship that is unhealthy, one-sided, or damaging can be described as toxic. This could be a romantic relationship, a familial relationship, a friendship, or even a work relationship. People who find themselves in these kinds of relationships tend to be manipulated and lack the self-esteem and confidence to set healthy boundaries or even walk away. Getting the courage to end a toxic relationship can be an immense challenge, as well as getting back to normal after ending one. Building up your self-worth with painful memories and finding a new normal can be a significant challenge. As well as other talking therapies, hypnotherapy can be a great way to help you deal with toxic relationships both during and afterwards.

Hypnotherapy can be an effective way to build up your self-esteem and confidence. You can learn to recognise and reprogram unhelpful thinking patterns, as well as create a space within yourself to reconnect with yourself and identify your needs and strengths. Hypnotherapy can also help you to come to terms with painful memories and revisit them from a position of safety and increased self-compassion.


The end of a relationship can be a sad and life-altering change. Losing a romantic partner, a family member or a friend can leave a bad taste in your mouth and the pain of losing them from your life can follow you around for years. For some people, time and good company can heal old wounds and patch up the hole in your heart, but others can get trapped in a cycle of grief and unresolved emotion with no clear end in sight. If you’re struggling to shake off the pain of the end of a relationship after a good length of time, you may be dealing with denial or be unable to accept how or why the relationship ended.

When you get stuck in ways of thinking, unresolved conflict, negative feelings, or behaviours, it can be a real struggle to break the cycle and put the past behind you in a healthy way. Hypnotherapy can give you the tools to disrupt these patterns so that you can begin to focus on cultivating new relationships, nurturing the ones that you have, and leaving the past behind where it belongs. Hypnotherapy can be a great way to help you reframe a past relationship in your mind so that it is easier to achieve closure.

Navigating the complexity of human relationships can be a minefield for the best of us, and it can be difficult not to allow our past perceptions and beliefs to warp the way that we form and maintain relationships with others. If you feel yourself getting stuck, that history repeats itself, or that the past won’t let you go, then hypnotherapy may be just what you need to make powerful and lasting changes to the relationships in your life. You can learn to fight for yourself, to have the courage to put yourself out there, and to be able to confidently and empathetically navigate the myriad of different ways that people see and interact with the world and people around them. If you think that you need a helping hand with your relationships, then take a look at our directory of Accredited hypnotherapists today!